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How to Deal with Difficult People at Work
Author: admin | Category: dealing with difficult peoplewww.methodcorp.com Practical Self Help Workplace Strategies for Dealing with difficult people
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July 23rd, 2008 at 7:36 pm
Correct my frind, like the old saying goes, if you dont make a plan before you do something, then your plan is to fail. I hope this helps too.
July 30th, 2008 at 8:01 pm
how do you answer that ? well , yes, most people are reasonable and rational as long as it is in their favor. what does that mean? best to keep to yourself and let the assholes be assholes. when you can’t understand it , and you can’t run away from it, fuck it , you’ll get so stressed you might wanna consider between your sanity and your job
November 30th, 2008 at 3:12 am
I like this video. A few years ago I ran into two bullies at the same place of employment. The more I tried to make friends with them, the more they bullied.
Then I suddenly realized that the reason they were bullying was because they “enjoyed” having people sweat to make friends with them.
Eventually I learned to totally ignore them and to STOP all efforts to make friends with them. They appeared to actually be quite upset by this and the whole game stopped.
January 8th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
I could only listen to this for about a minute, his accent killed me
January 14th, 2009 at 11:49 pm
Simple, practical and useful. Helped me pick a few pointers on when to confront and when NOT to confront. Thanks.
February 18th, 2009 at 4:29 pm
really practical suggestions. thanks
July 15th, 2009 at 4:10 am
Pretty good advice. After nine years of working for a very difficult boss, I finally tried the “run” strategy (quitting the job), and it was the best decision I could have made. I had been trying the other three strategies, but none of them worked. I discovered that if I took a stand, she would find a way to make me pay. Man, I still have nightmares about her a year and a half later.
July 20th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
No its not presuming anything. It presents you the four elementary strategies. There are no other. This is it.
A death sentence? Get a grip man.
I’ve had quite a bad position in my previous job. Had to leave (run) Best decision ever.
July 28th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Really nice sort of advices. Thank you!
August 16th, 2009 at 8:53 am
good video
September 21st, 2009 at 5:11 pm
What if the difficult person is you boss and can and will fire your ass at the drop of a hat?
September 22nd, 2009 at 10:39 am
The same rules still apply. You have to decide whether your best strategy is to run, change your attitude, change their attitude, or take a stand. By the way, sometimes the so called “difficult bosses” are the easiest to manage. It depends in what way they are difficult. I wish you well.
September 22nd, 2009 at 4:17 pm
Okay but the issue with such a boss is a “no win situation”. Sometimes there is no magic answer. I either put up with abuse or I have no job, there is no third alternative. Either way I lose. Sometimes life is like that. I’ve lived long enough to know that
September 23rd, 2009 at 1:32 am
If it is a no win, then you have to choose the least losses alternative, but keep your eyes open for other alternatives opening up in the future.
A word of caution, We sometimes convince ourselves that we are in a no win situation when we are not. “I either put up with harrassment or get fired.” In reality, we usually have room to maneuver” a bit. We might need to look harder to open up our mind for available alternatives.
Good Luck
October 8th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
sweets
Maybe the better idea is to realize that you ARE CHOOSING to put up with it becuase YOUR INTEREST to stay is more gainful than taking a stand may cost you.
This way you put up with it from a place YOUR POWER.
P.S.
I hear there are more than one boss and one workplace in this country…
So you may have more options than you think. Maybe the fear and discomfort to change jobs seem to you like like a cheaper price to pay than taking abuse?
October 9th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
Question? I have a boss who is very sweet but she uses it for a picture cover up. when she gets upset she is demeaning, commander, egocentric and no one can be right but her.And so this makes me uncomfortable working with a person like that. I want to stand up but she crushes me to look powerful. How can i deal with her in professional way to make it sound that we all have good knowledge too?
October 10th, 2009 at 9:22 am
Here is a way to respond: Next time she is demeaning to you, look hurt. Then, wait until she is not under pressure any more and approach her abotu the specific incident. Do not be generic. do not say “when you are angry, you always do….” instead be specific about the incident and the specific wrong behavior from the boss. Be collaborative in your approach not intimidating. See what happens. Good luck
December 21st, 2009 at 1:49 pm
Thanks for the video. I had to deal yesterday with an uneducated person (rude, agressive). dealing with people that don’t have the mental resources to communicate can be quite a challenge.
January 2nd, 2010 at 4:03 pm
just kill them :
January 3rd, 2010 at 2:57 pm
They missed the fifth strategy; kill your mother after you tried all four previous strategies!
January 13th, 2010 at 2:52 am
Hmm, ya raised some good points in that presentation. Thanks
January 14th, 2010 at 10:36 am
Very good video! These are mostly logical and well thought out tips..
However, when dealing with idiots,
remember this, IGNORANCE PREVAILS!
This could mean: shaming the other person,or making the other peron uncomfortable … IGNORANCE PREVAILS when dealing with idiots. (With Peers, not bosses., unless you know you can’t get fired. I wish I would have figured this out earlier.
February 6th, 2010 at 4:23 pm
i deal with many difficult people at my workplace and these helped. thank you.
February 12th, 2010 at 5:22 am
I am working with a totally nasty passive aggressive woman at work. She’s been there since the year dot and treats many people badly - mainly by giving them the silent treatment. She is just toxic and there is no way of dealing with her as far as I can see. She should be sacked, but the management are scared of her. She’s not even in a senior position either - she’s a care assistant. I dunno why they don’t get rid of her.
May 14th, 2010 at 11:24 pm
May this video be watched by employees alluded to.