Breaking people dependency and being happy on my own?

Author: admin  |  Category: coping with difficult people

I’m 25 now and for most of my life I’ve been very people dependent. I always had to be around people or keep busy or I seemed miserable. After a breakup 6 months ago ice committed to changing this among many other aspects of my life. I’ve taken many steps but find it difficult spending hours on my own with free time. Its not that I’m isolating myself but I try to keep to my own to break this. Any ideas on how to cope?

People will say make new friends but that seems difficult for me. Most people here in NJ don’t share in my interests. I’m an outdoors guy. Hunt, fish, quad, camp…. Its tough. Any input on a path to take or how to completely overcome this and heal?
Thanks for the responses so far. I do have a curent gf but she’s across the country for the summer. So I figure this is the best time to put the nail in the coffin for this issue.

I’m basically trying to figure out how to simply enjoy nothing to do and not getting worked up if I’m not constantly busy. In time ill figure out how to create new friendships but for now I wanna fix me and this problem.

I sincerely thank all of you for trying to help and provide input!


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3 Responses to “Breaking people dependency and being happy on my own?”

  1. poliwog Says:

    Accept it as a unique part of yourself, don’t fight it. Be proud of what you have accomplished. Observe yourself and learn about you, in time you may learn to enjoy just your own company. Live in the moment, be present in the present.

  2. dingabs Says:

    You have to be strong.

    There will be a long way to go and you will have to make new friends again- at work, gym, library, at the mall, etc,,

    For now, stop feeling sorry for yourself and live the life you love. Pursue your interests and keep an open mind,,, life goes on.

    When the right person come along love will happen again

  3. Tiffany S Says:

    Can’t really answer this for you because I go through the same thing. All I can say is that it’s anxiety. The more pressure you put on yourself the harder it’s going to be to meet someone. Nobody likes to be home alone for hours, maybe you could start thinking about takin some college classes or meeting girls online in your home town. Theres alot of people that live near you that like those kinds of things you just have to find them.

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