Coping With Difficult People

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Let’s face it, hard as we try, none of us can avoid contact with difficult people. Some people just seem to savor unnecessary and unhealthy conflict; they don’t seem to be happy unless they are driving those around them crazy. Best-selling author and noted relationship expert, Dr. John Townsend, helps us better understand what makes “button pushers” act the way they do-and why they want to elicit a negative emotional and even behavioral response from us. He challenges readers to take personal responsibility and stop responding to difficult people in ways that just don’t work He then offers a whole new repertoire of responses, including specific guidance on body language and verbal scripts, which will allow us to confront and negotiate with “crazy-makers” on a brand new level.

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*How do you deal with dramatic and impulsive people who just does not seem civilized?

If this is someone you can not avoid, like a close family member you should have a talk with them and discuss how their behavior is upsetting you. Point out specific examples.
If this is like a co-worker or a friend then just try to avoid them.

That’s either dealing with difficult friends that you cant screw up a friendship with even if there being a douche bag or standing your ground with genuine A holes!

I go from doing nothing to stewing about (I have a long fuse) it to full blown rage I unfortunately lack assertiveness some tips would be great!

OR I KILL YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just kidding tips please

Assertiveness as the word implies means to assert yourself, that is you express your beliefs honestly as they are.

Its always mistaken with aggressiveness, people think assertiveness mean being brash and talking tough.

Its a way of speaking where we expressing what we actually intend to convey in a tone that is neither aggressive nor submissive,its a tone good enough to say "I mean it"

A difference in aggressive way and assertive way of speaking is:
"You got me angry and so I did this"

and

"I was feeling annoyed which made me do this"

In the first case you were clearly putting the blame on that person and attacking him,which will make him attack you once again.

In the second case, you’re rather defending yourself than attacking him plus you tell him honestly what you feel

Most assertive statements starts with "I feel" or "I believe".Its enough if you bring out what you exactly wanted to say, the problem is in our state of anger we forget the main point and keep going around in circles and reach nowhere.

Isnt it something we are born with?
Yes, it indeed is, we are born with these qualities but as a part of our growth and circumstances in life we are made to be submissive.

Isnt it easy to do
Like I said before, its easier said that done to bring our whats in the truest of our heart,constant practice will help.

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Ever question why you spend all your time and energy on demanding, difficult, undermining, and destructive people in your lives and take for granted those who are loving, caring, and committed to you?
Like dealing with a parent who cared more about their social lives and ignored their children’s emotional needs. Or warming up to a person who is cold to you just trying to win their favor.

I see this behavior all the time and it confuses the snot out of me.

They are trying to fix something in their past and sacrificing their future.