Coping With Difficult People

That’s either dealing with difficult friends that you cant screw up a friendship with even if there being a douche bag or standing your ground with genuine A holes!

I go from doing nothing to stewing about (I have a long fuse) it to full blown rage I unfortunately lack assertiveness some tips would be great!

OR I KILL YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just kidding tips please

Assertiveness as the word implies means to assert yourself, that is you express your beliefs honestly as they are.

Its always mistaken with aggressiveness, people think assertiveness mean being brash and talking tough.

Its a way of speaking where we expressing what we actually intend to convey in a tone that is neither aggressive nor submissive,its a tone good enough to say "I mean it"

A difference in aggressive way and assertive way of speaking is:
"You got me angry and so I did this"

and

"I was feeling annoyed which made me do this"

In the first case you were clearly putting the blame on that person and attacking him,which will make him attack you once again.

In the second case, you’re rather defending yourself than attacking him plus you tell him honestly what you feel

Most assertive statements starts with "I feel" or "I believe".Its enough if you bring out what you exactly wanted to say, the problem is in our state of anger we forget the main point and keep going around in circles and reach nowhere.

Isnt it something we are born with?
Yes, it indeed is, we are born with these qualities but as a part of our growth and circumstances in life we are made to be submissive.

Isnt it easy to do
Like I said before, its easier said that done to bring our whats in the truest of our heart,constant practice will help.

Employers always seem to like industry experience. So you could be a marketing person but without software industry experience it’s challenging to move into that industry.

Hardly. I spent 10 years in financial services and moved into career counseling. From there I went to disaster services and then environmental services. Very different careers to be in.

Praying and trust that God is listening

Overview Woman, Thou Art Loosed introduces readers to Michelle, a young woman whose anger at the sexual abuse and neglect she’s suffered erupts in a horrible murder. As she shares her story with her mother’s pastor, it becomes clear that behind the hardened woman is a deeply wounded young girl. Use this study to explore the themes of this film. What is the nature of forgiveness? Is grace worth having if it’s freely offered to all, no matter what their offense? How does hypocrisy affect the way people understand and respond to matters of faith? How does God see us, despite our sins? What is the role of a healthy church community in dealing with difficult issues? Discussion Guide     • Movie Summary     • Discussing the Scenes —Forgiveness and Grace (Luke 15:11-32; Psalm 32:1-5; 79:9) —Hypocrisy (Matthew 18:1-7) —How God Sees Us (1 Peter 2:9; Ephesians 5:8-10) —The Church Community (1 Corinthians 12:12-26)     • As the Credits Roll Based On Woman, Thou Art Loosed (Magnolia Pictures, 2004), directed by Michael Schultz, rated R. Photo © Copyright Magnolia Pictures

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