Depression | Coping With Difficult People

05 Jul

How do I get used to associating with people?

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I’m a 19 year old male with social anxiety. You don’t really want to hear my life story, so I will skip that. The relevant thing is that I am taking steps to getting over it, which has proven to be very very difficult some days. Anyways, because of my anxiety, I’m a pretty weird person, meaning I tend to ignore societies unspoken social rules. Now I don’t go out of my way to stand out, but for the most part I act however I want, as long as I’m not breaking any laws or hurting someone. I’m a very quirky person and I love being that way. I’m also an actor in community theatre.

For the most part, I don’t associate well with others. That’s because they just don’t get me or think I am just too weird. I don’t get them either because a lot of them seem to have generic personalities. Some are into drinking, drugs, and sex with strangers, and I’m not into any of that. So I avoid the "cool" crowd because I already know I can’t relate to them. I’m having a very hard time finding people I can associate with. A lot of people tend to think I’m stupid or ignorant. That’s only because I am highly anxious when around others. I am also depressed and struggling with isolation, so I can’t really learn much about the world if nobody tells me anything. Not only that, but my depression just makes me want to listen to the same song over and over again. There’s this guy I know from the University and we worked together in a couple shows and in class. For the most part, he was obsessed with telling me all kinds of facts about theatre, music, and formal wear, 99.9% of which I could care less about. Besides, half of his information was wrong anyways. He was the sound operator for one of my shows and had the nerve to say that our show was going to get a horrible review because the director got a couple facts wrong about the time period and any critic with half a brain would agree with him. It turns out that he was the one who was wrong, and I know because I actually did some research. And it’s community theatre for crying out loud! They don’t even write reviews in my town for this kind of stuff. Oh, and the audience loved our show by the way.

I’ve lived in isolation for a very long time, and I’m very very slowly getting out of it. It’s been two whole years of work and I still got a very long way to go to at least cope with my anxiety. My anxiety has allowed me to see things for what they really are, and I’ve identified who I should not be associating with. This guy is the most recent example. At first I thought it was kind of cool that he knew stuff, but now I really don’t want to associate with him at all. I think he assumes that I’m a complete newbie to theatre, and believe me, I’m not. I know what I’m doing, and if I don’t know, I will learn on my own or ask for assistance. I know that the director and assistant director were very irritated by his behaviour. But anyways, he’s just another category of person I have to add to avoid.

My anxiety really has blinded me socially. When I speak, it tends to be very jumbled and I accidentally say the opposite meaning of what I am trying to say. When I read out loud, I stutter. My volume tends to be low and I can’t talk when several people talk at once. And the worst part is that most people talk about nothing, so I have nothing to add to the conversation. The people I associate with best are older adults, but that is even difficult sometimes. I am getting better, but I need more help.

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03 Jul

Solutions for Difficult Oppositional Defiant Children & Teens

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27 Jul

My Thoughts on Self Injury

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My thoughts on SI, if you don’t like it then don’t watch.
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My other SI video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oiFgKJJAsfo
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SI is something I go through personally everyday of my life. I think about it all the time. Even tho the thoughts are there, most likely I’ll be able to control myself & not hurt my body. Sometimes I slip & hurt myself but it shows how hard I work towards being healthy & safe. DBT is a good source to help the urges & to find safe ways to cope with the feeling. (more)

This Video *MAY TRIGGER*

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This is a video on self-harm I made to help those who don’t understand. Please check it out and ask any questions if you have any. If there is hate comments, rude or disrespectful I will delete and block you. Below I have posted a lil more details about those who self-harm. Please take a moment to read it.

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Song: Breathe-Sia
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SI is something I go through personally everyday of my life. I think about it all the time. Even tho the thoughts are there, most likely I’ll be able to control myself & not hurt my body. Sometimes I slip & hurt myself but it shows how hard I work towards being healthy & safe. DBT is a good source to help the urges & to find safe ways to cope with the feeling.

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Self-injury or self-harm is when somebody damages or injures their body on purpose. Self-injury is a way of expressing deep emotional feelings or problems that build up inside.

Cutting the skin is probably the most common form of self-injury. The cuts are not usually deep but in some cases, medical attention is needed to clean, dress or stitch the wounds. The most common places on the body to cut are the wrists, upper arms, inner thighs and upper chest. Less common are the face, breasts, abdomen and genitals. Often people who cut themselves will use one or two methods, for example, knives, glass or razor blades. The person tends to have a certain area of the body that they prefer to cut, such as the arms.

Burning the skin (usually with cigarettes) is also common. People may also self-harm by scratching, hitting or punching, sometimes using an object. Other forms of self-injury include picking at the skin, pulling out hair, swallowing poisonous substances, taking an overdose of tablets or drugs or deliberately breaking bones.

Although, there is a connection between self-harm and suicide, the majority do not risk their lives. For many people who self-injure, their actions are only an attempt to cope with the stress and difficulties they face; their purpose is not to end their life. However, there is a possibility that those who self-injure may commit suicide either deliberately or accidentally as the result of their actions.

Self-harm is much more common among girls than boys, often starting in adolescence (between 13 and 18 years of age), although it can affect children from as young as 11 years. Fear of discovery, shame and embarrassment often means that people keep self-injury a secret. Because of this, it is difficult to know how many people self-harm.

Some people self-harm only once or a few times while others do it on a regular basis, sometimes throughout their life.

People who self-injure are very careful to hide the damage and scars. They will often injure themselves in places that can be easily hidden by clothing so friends and family members may be unaware of the person self-injuring in private.

Another sign that someone could be self-harming is that the person will insist on keeping covered up at all times, even in hot weather.

People self-injure for a variety of reasons and sometimes, the person doesnt actually know why they are doing it. However, it is commonly thought to provide a release for pent-up emotions and feelings. For some people it is their way of coping with a specific problem. Self-injury is a sign of emotional distress and is not an attempt to seek attention.

People who self-harm often describe feelings of numbness or deadness or they may feel detached from reality, as if they are not part of the world. Some may injure themselves to stay separated from reality but others do it to make them feel more real, connected and alive.

People whom self-injure risk infections if their wounds are not treated properly. Cuts can become infected if a person uses non-sterile or dirty cutting instruments.

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Self Injury Awareness Day March 1st

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Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation by Steven Levenkron

The Scarred Soul: Understanding and Ending Self Inflicted Violence by Tracy Alderman

Self Harm Behaviors and Eating Disorders
by John Levitt, Randy Sansone & Leigh Cohn (Editors)

Beyond Fear and Control
working with young people who self-harm
Eds. Helen Spandler & Sam Warner

A Bright Red Scream: Self-mutilation and the Language of Pain
Marilee Strong, Armando R. Favazza

Check out my other videos.

SI is something I go through personally everyday of my life. I think about it all the time. Even tho the thoughts are there, most likely I’ll be able to control myself & not hurt my body. Sometimes I slip & hurt myself but it shows how hard I work towards being heathly & safe. DBT is a good source to help the urges & to find safe ways to cope with the feeling.